Im 24 I have a kid. I live with my parents

I have a hard time making decisions for myself because my parents make all of them for me. Even when I try to make my own I fall back and I do what they say.

How do you set your foot down?

I need serious advice I feel stuck.

My abusive ex is deported but I recently got news that he’s at the boarder with a high possibility that he will cross to come here. He will most likely try and take my son away(kidnap him and try and run away back to Mexico)

We both have custody tho I have him full time. This is important because if he takes him I can not say he was kidnapped because he is still his dad.

I have a fiancé who actually has a room for us to stay. My ex knows where I live with my parents and We are in danger here.

I told my parents I moving out with him and after a 3 hour talk Im back at square one.

My plan was to get married through the court and start an petition to get full custody and my fiancé adopt him.

But my parents want me to stay and we get cameras around the house. (Still doesn’t protect me from going out) he can follow me from my parents house. They want me to get married through the church it takes 8 months just to prepare.

They say that I can get an apartment (studio) and live there for a little but the issue is I can’t afford that in my state.

Girls I’m having a panic attack and I’m so scared of what can happen my parents think I’m over reacting but this is the man who raped me who left my son in the car on a hot day who abused me who kicked me out of the house, who has a problem with drugs and alcohol and has no fear for the law. My best bet is to be prepared they think I’m being irrational. Help me