I'll start with a little back story first.. My sister has always been one to follow after the toxic controlling abusive men. I don't think she's ever been with a guy who treated her good and pure. At 16 she had a baby, doesn't know who the father is, and my mom basically raised her daughter because my sister still wanted to do teenager things and was too busy running after guys. After a couple years she got married to a guy who was the same story as the rest of them. They had two kids together. Their marriage just got worse and worse as time went on. She finally recently left him, but continued playing back and forth games, with each other all while she was now hooking up with his best friend who is literally the same person, just different look, different name. Unfortunately me being the baby of the family, I've known this guy long before the rest of my family and I know he's no good. I'm honestly surprised my sister hasn't lost the younger two kids because during the game period of the two men, she started doing meth with her ex husband and would lock them two up in a room while the kids had to fend for themselves. Which I got a call from my oldest neice saying how they have absolutely no food. So after that things blew up and I stopped talking to her for about 2 years.

We recently just started to talk again after my dad had a death scare. To no surprise nothing has changed. My sister quit using meth, but her drinking got heavy and she ended up in the hospital twice because of it. She has then stopped because otherwise she was basically going to die. Of course the boyfriend who is an alcoholic can't respect her enough to quit himself. He belittles her all the time, calls her a crack head from all the weight she's lost. She's constantly asking for money because he takes all her money. She can't even pay her phone because he won't pay it and he expects her to use her money on other things. So then she's constantly having to ask her older daughter for money which she now lives on her own, has her own bills to pay, and if she doesn't give her money, the boyfriend will then go off on my neice about it.

So my sisters and I recently decided to do family pictures with my mom and dad because the only ones we had were from before they got divorced many many years ago. Our first orginal session had to be rescheduled last minute due to weather. But before that session my neice told her mom how she didn't want the boyfriend in the pictures because they weren't married. My sister said no he wasn't even going to be included anyways it was going to be her and the other 2 kids only. It was no problem. So then the other day was the day we had our actual session, and my sister messaged me asking if it would be ok for the boyfriend to be in them. And I said "I don't want him in all the family pictures. Because I'm sorry but I don't see him as family and would like to put up one picture of all us without him." She then agreed he wouldn't be in all them and I said back to her I know her daughter feels strongly about him not being in them at all, and that it's not fair to her. And everything hit the fan. She was saying how they live together, and her daughter has known him for him years. Like as if that makes someone family 🙄. She then started saying how she's not going to come, called my mom and dad, and fed them BS. She still showed, and we got the pictures done.

After though we were all standing around and my dad started a lecture about family, so at this point my blood was boiling because this when I knew she called to play victim like she always does. So I piped in saying "yeah dad, we're all family here not ----" and my sister said stuff, and it blew up into a huge mess. I basically tried leaving right away because I knew it was going to get ugly, my mom grabbed me while my son was now standing in between us and my husband yelled at her to get her hands off me. I quickly get the kids in the car seats and we leave.

Now here's the part that's really bothering me.

My oldest neice, and another neice from a different sister, are acting as if my husband's in the wrong for yelling at my mom telling me he needs to apologize. When I feel he doesn't. However them, and my other sister who I've talked to since have all told me they agree with me, and always agree with me in other times. But no one else ever speaks up. No one else in the family ever has my back. My parents are always enabling my sister. They never hold her accountable. They seriously turn a blind eye to her. My parents have yet said anything to me. I'm sure they're mad at me, it's how this always goes. Anytime I say something, or the last time I cut my sister off I was the bad guy. I was the one tearing apart our family. It's always some how my fault, because my sister does nothing but lie and plays victim to her own games.

So I just sent this text to my parents. Sorry things are blocked out for privacy.

But now I'm just stuck on where to go from here. It hurts me alot that this is happening. But my family is draining and so toxic I just don't even know how to deal with it anymore. My parents say there is nothing they can do, yet they don't even talk to her about the actions she is doing. Or how badly she's hurting her kids. My mom's go to thing is that she has no where to go which is a lie. But see when my mom divorced my dad, my mom had lined out a new boyfriend. I met him literally the same day I was dragged out of my childhood house. When my mom realized he wasn't rich, she left him and we had to throw a mattress down on my aunts living room floor for several months until my mom found my next step dad. And that's how my mom thinks my sister needs to be. Just depend on a man. I just know my family will never be the same after all this. I'll never be the same. I have lost all respect for really all of them. I will never ever have any type of relationship with that sister again. Not after she wanted to lie and play woes me, to make me look like the bad guy. I'll never be able to have any kind of relationship with my parents knowing they won't ever do what's right and turn their backs all on me. My other sister, I can't trust at this point because she will sit there and agree with me but never say anything herself instead she just hides when things get heavy. So I just feel lost. And it really just hurts me for my kids but I know separating myself from them is what's best.