Sorry about the long rant.

Last year my husband and I were going through a rough patch. And he ended up moving back to Cali. While he was there he was talking about me and our marriage negatively to other women and hanging with them in the middle of the night. We ended up talking about it and he assured me it was only two women he had talked to ( I have a low tolerance for telling others our personal business). I ended up forgiving him and he moved back. Fast forward to a few months ago I happened to be on his phone and saw messages from this girl I’ve never heard of. I clicked on her name and saw they were talking mess about me and when I tried reading everything he snatched his phone and got mad saying “ I’m just looking for stuff to get upset about” I told him I wasn’t and I was just looking because my intuition was off. Oh did I mention I’m pregnant with our third child?? I told him “what’s the big deal you said I could go through your phone” he made a huge deal and stormed out the room for a while. He comes in probably an hour later and says “ here you can look through it” I said “ no it’s fine. You already made a big deal out of nothing so I definitely know now that my gut is right”. I eventually looked at it anyway and saw he had deleted EVERYTHING. Even off of other apps. Obviously that started a whole other issue and I told him this is how he’s paving the way of our marriage. He claims he didn’t delete anything. But he lies so much that he’s constantly caught in them. Just a couple months after we were talking and he ended up saying “ thats why I deleted those messages. Because there were inappropriate things being said and I didn’t want any problems” I told him he just caused more problems by doing that and that I don’t trust him. Flat out. Plus I’ve been catching him deleting msgs again with another girl from work recently.

He’s been smoking. He knows I hate that he does it but I don’t make a big deal because I know he’ll do it anyway. Tonight he came home from work with the strong scent and when I asked if he did, he said no. I said then why do I smell like it? If you weren’t smoking who was that close to you to wave the smell? He swore up and down that he didn’t. But everytime he does he passes out as soon as he gets in the door. Which was exactly what he did tonight. So I went to his car and of course there’s the strong scent. My thing is why lie?? He’s lying about a lot more stuff but I don’t understand why he’s lying about small stuff like that. It’s so unattractive and I’m tired of it. I want to walk away but I’m thinking about our kids. I guess I just needed to vent and get some advice.