Please no judgement - circumcision

We had our beautiful baby boy on 6/18 and he is perfect and healthy. We wanted to get him circumcised at the hospital but they told us his genitals were too swollen and we needed to wait and go see a urologist. Today I took him in and they said they recommend waiting until he is 6 - 12 months old to circumcise him as his penis is not shaped correctly for the procedure. I am really struggling with this as it means he will need to get an epidural or even be put under if it’s after 12 months and I’m not sure what to do. We have another son who is circumcised so I feel that it would be odd to have one circumcised and one not. Has anyone been through this before and can offer some advice? Please no hateful comments.