My neighbors are always outside when I want to smoke weed

I don’t smoke in my house because I have kids, also I don’t want my house to reek of weed. I go to my back porch but my neighbors are just on the other side of the fence and it’s a bit annoying sometimes because I don’t want to blast them with weed smoke cause that’s rude as hell. Especially because I know they are religious and probably against it. Also they are older.

Obviously I can’t control when they are outside but it’s ALL THE TIME lol. I try to go to another spot in my yard but theres no hiding this. I’m worried about them judging me because I smoke and have kids, I don’t want them to call cps or something dumb.

They are so sneaky too, I listen for them and after a couple mins of not hearing a peep, I’ll light up but then as soon as I do I hear them so I’ll put it out. Like do they live out in the backyard? My husband and I were outside smoking very late at night, for like 2 hours we didn’t hear anything and we just were chatting and having a good time when all the sudden we hear them get out of their hot tub.

How long were they there? Did they hear our conversations? How many of our fights have they heard? They probably think “damn those kids always smoking weed and saying gross things to each other” lol.

I’m pretty hyper aware of everyone around me, I try to be as considerate as possible. My dad raised me to be that way to a fault. I couldn’t even walk on other peoples grass because he said it was rude. Also wasn’t allowed to bite my silverware, be to loud, ect. He went overboard with it so now I make it my goal to not be a bother to anyone.

My husband wasn’t raised this way and is totally fine being a normal volume in his own backyard, just lights up whenever he wants, doesn’t turn down the music in the drive through, isn’t quiet when people are sleeping, ect. Must be nice. Idk why I wrote this I just wanted to rant lol

Thank you dad for making me way to much of a people pleaser, so much so that I worry about very small things. Hope our neighbors don’t hate us!