So my kids are 5 & 7, Kindergarten and second grade. They’ve gone to my ex MILs daycare since they were born. I kept them going there during our divorce bc it just worked for us. Well, I’m in a relationship and we just bought a house together. Since we’ll be living together I’ll lose my daycare assistance and my ex only pays $250 a month in child support. That’s what he could afford during the divorce and I just wanted to get away from him. Me and my BF make good money but as we all know daycare is expensive!!But everytime I pick my kids up from grandmas they cry bc they want to stay and they’re never ready when I arrive unlike all the other kids. They’re spoiled at grandmas and last year was just crazy. They got accepted into a free after school program I signed them up for. They get free bussing, a snack, activities and they’ll help with homework. (Yes my 5yo has homework due to a speech impediment) My ex had a tantrum when I told him. He claims I cannot make those decisions without his input and it’ll mess up his schedule bc he has to work late some Friday’s. Mind you, I did mention it to him and he told me absolutely not. But in my opinion I should decide since I primarily have the kids during the week and I’m the one paying for daycare. The program is only for 2 hours a day! We have shared custody with him taking the kids for visits every other weekend. He claims he’ll take me back to court to get 50/50 shared time. Am I being unreasonable? If he takes me to court will they give him 50/50 custody? I don’t think that’s best for my children during the school year but I’ve always gave him as much time as he’s asked for during breaks from school. I texted my ex MIL. We’re all currently on quarantine. She isn’t texting back. I’m worried it’ll hurt our relationship. I already know she’ll be livid. One of my kids is happy about the program and the other doesn’t want to leave Gmas daycare.