Drama Drama Drama

So… my sister and her husband have been struggling to get pregnant for the last several years. They finally found success via IVF. ❤️ My husband and I are through the moon in excitement for them.

*****A little back story, my sister can be very mean, and has always been entitled and (for lack of a better word) spoiled. But I love her and she’s my only sibling.******

Well I got pregnant well before she did new, and I had a feeling she would be upset with me and not happy that we could potentially be pregnant at the same time.

One morning, at breakfast, she announced she was pregnant. I chose to wait for her to announce first because i thought she’d like that, being this is her first pregnancy) and my second. So we both announced at breakfast and it went terrible.

Well, she was upset, cried, and made angry faces at our family when they showed excitement towards me. She forced them to hide their feelings and only show excitement torwards her.

Her issues, which she brought up to our mom, were that her pregnancy isn’t special anymore, her child will be born second, her child will not get many gifts, I’ll have a baby shower first, or sprinkle if it’s the same gender as my first. All things that don’t matter. The worst part is that my mother is now upset at the both of us. I feel like I didn’t do anything. I’m extremely happy for my sister and happy we get to share this experience together. Most importantly, our children will grow up together.

Most recent thing, when we found out we were pregnant with our first born, we decided on names for both genders. My sister apparently made mention that she wants the same name for a girl that my husband and I decided on years ago. Naturally when my mom told me to not take the name away from her, my husband and I were upset and sad. Especially my husband, he’s always wanted a little girl and together we chose her name. But after talking about it we took the high road and decided we’ll go another route with names.

We’ve been nothing but happy. Happy for my sister and happy for us but she’s making it so stressful because she’s making it a competition.. and worst of all, my mother cannot even admit to herself that my sister is causing all this tension and stress all because she we’re pregnant at the same time and for materialistic reasons. I think my mom actually sides with her, she also makes me feel like I’m doing something wrong and I should not “stir shit up” anymore.

Idk what to do. Thinking of cutting everyone out until my child is born. Sorry for the long rant.. just needed to vent this out.

**edit**

I wanted to announce waaay before we knew my sister was pregnant. But my mother forced me to announce at the same time.