My husband won’t do bedtimes with my toddler. He says that she wants me. It’s hard to be the only one doing naps and bed. I deal with the screaming when I leave the room some nights. Other nights she’s okay.

Today his parents came into town to visit and she completely missed her nap because of when they showed up. I knew bedtime was going to be a struggle but it is what it is.

I just spent 1.5 hours of trying to put her down and her screaming every time I tried to leave the room. He was out in the living room playing video games. So I put my daughter down and asked him if he could try. He picked her up and when she reached for me, he handed her back.

So I put her down for the 6th time and said I loved her and left the room. I went into our room and laid down. It’s finally gotten to me. I just heard him go in. I’m not going in to check, I’m not going in to see if she wants me. I’m just not doing anything.

I feel bad. My mommy instinct says to go in. I should just push through. It’s okay for him to be in there. It okay for me to step away.

Right?