I had to say goodbye to my first angel today

Lexie

Hi everyone, this is really difficult to share. I found out at 11 weeks pregnant last Friday, my husband and I’s baby had fetal acrania. It’s an extremely rare birth defect where the skull doesn’t form properly. It’s fatal and the baby would not of survived. i would of miscarried, the baby would of been stillborn, or only alive for a few hours. I had a really kind doctor who explained to me this is not my fault and there’s nothing I could of done to prevent this, it just happens. It’s hard to believe that right now but I’m trying to. It’s so difficult because during the ultrasound, the baby was moving and had a strong heartbeat. Everything else formed normally which just makes this so painful. I got my d&c today and I just feel so empty. I’m so heartbroken and any advice would be really helpful. This was my first pregnancy and I’m 31. I wanted this baby more than anything in the world. I don’t know how I’ll move on from this pain. I was supposed to be leaving for Hawaii today to meet my family there for vacation. My husband and I still plan on going late hopefully but I don’t know how I’m going to feel tomorrow. I really want to be around my family and not sit at home I feel like it will help begin my healing process and I got the ok from my dr as long as I’m feeling ok. Thank you for anyone who read this, and my heart goes out to those of you who have gone through a loss. ❤️