In high school, college and after college I basically have always had the same friend group. If someone got married everyone in the group would get an invite, except me.

I even got invited one time to go with the girls to get nails done for the bachelorette weekend, but didn’t get invited to the bachelorette party or that wedding.

A few years later my best friend is getting married, I’m the maid of honor, has helped with a bunch of stuff and then a month before the wedding she called and said that her sister was going to be her maid of honor, but I was still welcomed to be a bridesmaid. I was extremely hurt, I had already bought the dress and shoes, had alterations done, and had helped so much, so I was still in the wedding. Wedding day came and who was the one doing all the helping? Me. Her sister was too busy off having a good time.

I’ve been in one other friends wedding and that experience went great.

I’ve never actually been invited to a wedding as a guest. We had some friends over a couple weeks ago and the wife said “hey are you going to so and so’s wedding?” I responded with “I didn’t get an invite or anything” she seemed really shocked.

Well last weekend I was sent videos while they were out for the bachelorette party and the wedding is tomorrow.

I genuinely do not understand why I’m never invited or thought of. It makes me feel invisible and that no one cares. My feelings are hurt. I’d rather get a save the date or an invite and decide if I can make it or not, instead of just being completely forgotten about.

Edit: hang out, stay over, have taken road trips together, have gone to concerts together, have spent birthdays together, done wine tastings, gone camping, go to the beach, go to the pool, go to dinner or lunch. To clarify why I think of them as friends.