So I think my step daughter might have an eating disorder. Please read everything.

My thoughts are:

* Would you approach her mom and her dad?

* Should I just bring it up to my husband first and see his thoughts?

* Do you think it sounds like I'm over thinking or self projecting?

*How would you approach this?

*And who would you approach first? (Because I was thinking about talking to my husband first and maybe having him call her mom and bring it up)

I'm 28, and my step daughter (Just truned 12) who Ive been in her life as a step mother since she was 3 and I was 19.

She got bullied pretty bad last school year and has been bullied in past years during school as well not just last year. The kids calling her fat and telling her to kill her self and calling her ugly and "beaver girl" because they thought she had buck teeth which she does not, they found out she goes hiking and mushroom hunting with me and her dad and started calling her mushroom girl. Which doesn't seem like a big deal "mushroom girl" but this was really unsetting to her who loved getting fresh mushrooms and coming he and cooking with us with them! These are all just a few things they said there is so much more! Out of all of the bulling over the years she's really clung to the "fat" part! She is not fat by any means she's 4, 11 and the doctors say shes actually a little under weight for her age, with her height and weight and she's so beautiful and smart! She in the past has clung to the "fat" comments and literally sat at the kitchen table during dinner and CRIED like SOBBING because she didn't wanna eat (after not eating ALL day)! She also has been in the same size for years now, and just finally grew like she got taller and she needed new sizes in shirts and pants that appropriately fit her and her mom called and asked me about it and I was like yeah she keeps trying to keep the smaller sizes and her pants are like high waters and her shirts are like crop tops because she just grew up!

When I was in high school I suffered from eating disorders, and for years no one knew about it not even my closest friends or even my mom! I did it all! From bingeing, purging, to eating nothing, to eating very little, finding a way to buy diet pills(and taking like 4different kinda at a time),taking water pills and over exercising! After years of therapy and the support of my friends and family I've worked through my issues. I don't want to self project or over think but I've noticed for a bit now she has been getting up after every meal and going straight to the bathroom? Which concerns me a little knowing how bothered she was by these kids comments, and how she's reacted in the past.

Her mom and I went to school together and have talked about the things I would do and go through! I don't want her mom to think I'm over thinking simply because of my past?! It just seems familiar.