4 year old daughter

I need help mommas. I’ve been going back and forth for so long with my girl about cleaning her room she destroyed. I’m 37 weeks pregnant I am so tired. I am tired of cleaning up after her constantly. I’m tired of begging her to clean her own mess. I’ve tried “throwing” toys away (garbage in closet hidden) she doesn’t care. I’ve tried cancelling her birthday party with a bounce house (doesn’t care), I’ve tried saying I’m going to give her kitten away (doesn’t care) I’ve tried placing her in time out multiple times (doesn’t care). I don’t know what to do. I feel like I’m failing as a mother. She doesn’t listen to me whatsoever, and like I said I am just so tired. I literally can’t stop crying. Her dad works out of town so he’s only home on weekends. I need help I need advice please.