My partner and I have a 3 year old daughter. He honestly doesn’t really help at all so I’m mainly the one caring for her. I try to be a gentle parent I guess like I don’t believe in hitting her and most of the times (although I admit I do lose my patience at times but just yell) I try to talk her feelings out and be there for her. Her father, on the other hand, just does not. There are some instances where I get upset because of the way he treats her. Some examples are 1) when we brought our newest baby home she was having a meltdown one day and he picked her up took her to another room and shut the door on her because he didn’t want her to wake the baby. 2) I was brushing her teeth and I told her to rinse her mouth but she was refusing so he came and picked her up and tried forcing her to do it and yelling at her. Whenever she has her meltdowns, which is a lot and I know it’s hard to handle, he constantly yells at her to be quiet. It makes me upset because I’m trying to be there for her and help her feel less upset at times and I feel like he’s going to traumatize her with how he treats her sometimes. Idk if I’m being dramatic or if I should tell him something. I send him posts from time to time on the parenting I want to do like helping kids through tantrums and stuff and he’ll say it’s good advice or something but then he acts like this and it makes me upset because I just want the best for our children. what should I do?

edit; another example to add that he’s done with both children. when he’s changing them and it’s not going smoothly (baby pees or she’s having a meltdown because she wasn’t ready to leave the shower and he just grabbed her out) he’ll throw the diapers or clothes