Rant about friend who pushes her parenting choices on me
Hey mamas, does anyone have a friend like this? I had my son in December, he is 8 months old and my friend had her daughter in April, she is 4 months old. We parent differently and that is completely fine with me. I don’t expect everyone to parent the same way I do. I have PPA and PPD so I tend to get pretty anxious about certain things. My friend is constantly telling me about how her daughter sleeps in their bed between them with blankets. If that’s what she is personally comfortable with then so be it. It’s her kid. But I’m not personally comfortable with it and I place my son in a separate sleep space free of any clutter and blankets. That’s my choice. I’m not against co sleeping to be clear, i know it can be done safely. I just am not personally comfortable with it for my child.
Well we took my son on his first road trip today and it hasn’t exactly gone the smoothest. We ended up having to pull over at a rest stop and change his diaper and give him some time because he was freaking out in the car. We had already done multiple stops along the way to stretch his little body and feed him etc and I sent a Snapchat to my friend of my son and I being goofy and he was in my lap and I showed that we were pulled over and parked somewhere safe. She says “oh, I sometimes just pull my daughter out of the car seat and feed and change her while my husband drives on the highway, you know you can do that right?” LIKE IM SORRY WHAT?!? Although I was absolutely shocked and horrified and think that is completely unsafe and kinda deserves to be reported to CPS I let it slide off and just ignored the comment.
Fast forward to this evening, we brought a pack n’ play for my son to sleep in and unfortunately it was broken and unsafe for him. By the time we noticed it, it was too late to go buy a new one. We don’t have any other safe sleep option for him that my husband and I are personally comfortable with. We decided it’s best if I slept a few hours and then stayed up with my son and let him contact sleep on me for the next 6 hours while my husband got some sleep because he was driving us home tomorrow. I could sleep in the car on the way home. I got 2 hours of sleep and feel 100% awake and alert to hold my son and let both him and my husband sleep through the night. My friend saw I was online and asked me why I was up. I explained my situation and she was like “ I don’t understand why you can’t just let him sleep with you in the bed or on the couch” I’ve explained so many times that it’s just not something I am personally comfortable with because my son is crawling and rolling all over the place and is a very active sleeper. She then went on a tangent about how she chooses to sleep with her child and said she just refuses to worry herself with stressing about safe sleep. I said that’s great it works for her but not for Me. I’m so done with talking to her about stuff.
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