Socializing for 2-3 year olds?

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I need some validation here. My parents seem to think that I am isolating my kids and neglecting them? Long story short, my parents neglected me and my siblings as teenagers and severely isolated us so we hardly had any contact with the outside world. I brought this up to my parents, how that traumatized me and made life so much harder for me, and how I'm in therapy for it, and they straight up said "well you're doing the same thing to your kids. I mean, you don't have them in daycare or swim classes or anything, so you're no better than us.Youre screwing your kids up. You're failing." No, my kids don't go to daycare or swim classes, nor have they started preschool yet. They're 3 years old. I do take them to the park all of the time, the library, church, their cousins/grandma's house, grocery shopping, ect... AND not to mention, my husband and I are both home at all times, interacting and doing things with our kids. Our kids are NOTHING like how I was as a child, nor am I anything like what my parents were. They were mentally/emotionally abusive and neglectful, "homeschooling" us to keep us away from other people, so that we didn't have anyone to reach out to. I don't want that for my kids, but my parents are claiming that I am ruining my kids and that I am just like them. I really want to go no-contact, but I haven't yet. Am I crazy? Should I be doing more with my kids? What does everyone else do with their children to help them have socialization?

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I mean those things really arent socializing with other kids. Usually theres not other kids around at the library unless you go to story time, you need to do stuff where they will be around other kids frequently, like weekly story time, play groups, etc, going to public play places that are for your kids age(those are usually really busy)

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My kids haven't been around other kids that much your kids actually get to do more than mine & my 5 year old just started school & he is fine he isn't shy & he is not mean to other kids as previous poster said...the only thing is he just gets restless but he is getting alot better with that. I think your doing great for you kids mama enjoy this time with them they will be fine!!!

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I think your kiddos are just fine!

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I wouldn’t say you’re keeping them from the outside world but it is important to have them socialize with other kids often, I worked in a daycare and you could definitely tell if kids were never around other kids, especially at that age, they were either super super shy or they were mean to other kids (not saying your kids are like this) but I would find something for them to do that involves other kids their age often

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Our 2-year old does Mother’s Day out.   My 11-month old won’t start til 18-months because that’s the youngest they can start.  But that’s about it, except we do have a lot of play dates and stuff.  I bet my 2-year old will start swimming lessons soon. It’s more me, kinda not getting around to it🤪
Maybe try to schedule some play dates each week?