I'm curious if anybody has had this problem as I have. For a good part of my pregnancy I distanced myself from emotion. I did this because I thought that I was going to give him up for adoption to a friend. A little more than half way through I started to change my mind. It's not that I didn't want this baby because that wasn't the case at all. I started getting my toddler to interact with his brother and talking more and more with him about his brother. When baby was born I decided to keep him. I don't regret my choice at all however I felt bad for some time and occasionally still do that I didn't give him to my friend.

Today I finally felt like maybe I'm finally feeling a little closer to him. I'm trying to give both my boys time with me separately and together. And I think it's helping. I feel like I could be doing something more to help grow this bond but I'm not sure what to do.

I am trying to look at him more and talk to him more. And I'll put him in his rocker near me when I'm cooking and have little one sided conversations with him all the time. I feel like I should add in that I'm not depressed. I didn't get that with either babies thankfully. I'm just tired all the time.

All advice welcome please !!