If you ARE GAINING WEIGHT, would you want your best friend/close friend/family member to tell you?

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I ask because, i have a VERY CLOAE BEST FRIEND who has been gaining sooo much weight and she always tells me "im getting bigger," but i never respond and i was telling my sister and my sister said i shouldnt tell her/admit that she is because its an offense.... i  put myself  in my friends shoes and i feel i would want my friends/fam to tell me , WHY??? because maybe i dont realize it, maybe i dont see the weight in me. Maybe i need a push to eat better  or Maybe im going through something and i need my friends to help me ans guide me...and open my eyes. Therefore i wont take it as an offense.. BECAUSE it comes with honesty and its the truth, WHAT DO YOU FEEL ABOUT THIS ???

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What? She knows she putting on weight. You don’t have to tell her. Why do people think they need to tell someone they’re gaining weight. First, the person knows. Second, it’s not your body to comment on.

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No! NO ONE should be commenting on anyone's weight besides a doctor. 
Unless someone is obviously so anorexic or so obese their life is threatened it is not your place to say anything. 
For some reason society thinks it's okay to comment if you notice that someone has lost or gained weight and it is just absolutely unacceptable and unnecessary to ever mention something about anyone's body. 
People are very sensitive about their bodies and their weight and they don't need to be told because trust me people know when they are losing or gaining weight. The last thing anyone wants to hear from a family member or friend is that you can tell that they've gained or lost weight. Hopefully she's seeing a doctor regularly because a doctor will let her know if they believe she is out an unhealthy weight but other than that that is completely up to her to make the decision to have a healthier lifestyle to lose weight.
If she's making comments herself she knows and she doesn't need you telling her anything to make her feel worse about it. Now the next time she mentions it you could be thoughtful and supportive and not mention anything about the weight like done say "yeah I noticed you're getting bigger" but simply say things like "well are you okay? Has anything been going on lately you'd like to talk about? Have you been to the doctor for a check-up just to make sure everything is Okay health wise? Can I do anything for you?"

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Nope nope nope. Not my body, not my business.

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No, absolutely not!! The fact is, the majority of people who gain weight/are overweight, DO KNOW they’re gaining & don’t need to be told. Now, IF that person actually mentions their weight themselves and/or asks for ur opinion & help, THEN u can address it, in a supportive & loving way! Until then, keep ur mouth shut!! 
For context… I’m very overweight, technically “morbid obese”, and have been on a weight loss journey for 4 years now & have proudly lost 100 pounds. That said, my progress has slowed way down over the last year & I’ve been struggling, but still trying. My best friend is also very overweight (“morbid obese”) and struggling. She’s seen my success thus far & we’ve discussed her weight plenty of times, BUT, ONLY when SHE mentions it. I have NEVER brought her weight up on my own. I give her lots of information, advice, and support, yet trying to lose weight has been more of a struggle for her, for many reasons. And, that’s HER business!! I’ll always be here if/when she’s ready to truly try to make a change, which she knows, but in the meantime, I don’t bring it up & just love her unconditionally!

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Uh, no. She knows. And it’s none of your business.

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no, i mean if you’re gaining weight you’d know it .

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Yes I agree tell her. I put some weight on I didn’t see it. Some people like my self can’t see it. Yes tell her.

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No, because I would already know if I'm gaining weight. No one else would have to tell me. 🤷‍♀️

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I’m going to be in the minority here. But I would. And I even tell my husband to tell me if my weight gain is out of control. Cuz sometimes I need to hear it so I can actually do something about it. 
I’m no skinny Jane. And I put on weight evenly, so it’s hard for me to notice until so much is starting to put on my face. 
I rather have someone tell me than over hearing it from someone else.

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I would wait for her to bring it up again. If that’s really your close friend , and she said “I’m getting bigger” I would respond by saying “Have you been eating differently? If you want I can go on a diet with you or start working out with you” and see if she wants to talk about it

If you ARE GAINING WEIGHT, would you want your best friend/close friend/family member to tell you?

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