this is more a question to stay at home moms cause it fits me..

what does yalls husband/bf do to help you with kids when they return from work? if anything at all?

i light clean my house daily to keep it decluttered, deep clean weekly/biweekly depending on what we have going on. i do laundry and the dishes every night before i go to bed. all the grocery shopping. all the cooking. i even take the trash out. i also have a 6 month old. i exclusively breastfeed so obviously i do all the feeding. i change every diaper. i give baths. put to sleep. and play all day with him. plus i keep my MIL dog while she works.

when my husband gets home from work, the shower is running already with a fresh towel/comfy clothes, and when he gets out his plate is made ready to eat. then he goes to bed

the most he does to help me is hold the baby for 10 minutes for me to eat before he complains that i eat slow and he’s tired. so i get frustrated and put my food away and wait til everybody is asleep to eat cold food in peace. he’s changed 5 pee diapers in 6 months. never gotten up at night or early in the morning with the baby. never given baths. never even been alone with the baby. i have to wait til everyone is sleeping to shower, and bring the baby monitor with me to watch our baby in the shower. when i complain that i could use help sometimes he says he works all day and he’s tired when he gets home. i get to stay home so i should have to do it. i understand being tired but i too “work” a full time job. being a mom is a 24 hour job. for 0 dollars an hour at that. i’m tired sometimes too. i can feel myself getting burnt out and i do not want that. it’s not fair to me or our baby. you would think weekends would be different but it’s not, he still says i worked ___hours this week. or give him a break he worked 6 days this week. i get it i do but again moms work 24/7 no breaks no appreciation no cudos no nothing.

so my question is am i the only one who has a significant other that doesn’t help and justifies it with his financial contribution? what can i do to make him see how hard i work or make him put in more effort? am i wrong for being upset/feeling overwhelmed?

i feel so guilty for feeling this way because i love the shit out of my baby and it’s not his fault but this mommy needs a break sometimes!!!