We found out I was pregnant with my first. Went in for my first appointment with a different doctor than my normal do to them not delivering any more a couple weeks later.

That first appointment was so strange. The doctor never asked me any medical questions even what medications I was in at that time. He quickly did the appointment, did an ultrasound and left. They sent out labs that day and I never heard about how those went until I made an appointment with a different doctor. This time she was amazing and very caring and asked me a ton of questions.

At this appointment I should have been 11w5d. She did an ultrasound and unfortunately the baby stopped developing at 9-10w. I was crushed and felt very failed by the first doctor. My new doctor gave me options of what to do. I elected to wait until after the weekend since we had plans to leave town already.

The following Tuesday came and I ended up bleeding extremely heavy with massive clots. Filling a pad every hour for about 5 hours. My new doctor had called me in the morning to check on me and see what I had decided at that point. She was very attentive and caring even at that point. I scheduled another appointment with her for the following week to make sure it had emptied the way it was supposed to.

My question is what are things other women have done to help them through this? We plan on waiting to try again in a couple months to a year. It was a very traumatizing experience and would like to make sure I’m doing ok mentally before moving on.