I feel my relationship has gone stale. I do find my partner to be very unmotivated. He doesn't work because of health issues and his drinking and smoking has gotten worst. He uses it as a coping mechanism.

He often says he is never drinking again after binge drinking and over the years I have tried supporting him and trying to encourage him to give up and try being healthier. He has health problems and he always forgets to take his medication. I knew he also had very high blood pressure , 145/80.. I thought he was on medication for this and only found out that he never recieved any from his Dr. I was so pissed off that he doesn't even use his initiative to ensure he gets medication for it . It's like waiting for a stroke to happen!.

We have a toddler together and although he is great with him and is very much a loving father , he isn't looking after himself to be the best healthiest version of him self. With this lack of motivation and his lifestyle I'm not interested in having sex with him and often find my self getting irritated by him and I'm starting to think I'd rather be single.

Not because I want to be free and go out and have sex (although i would like some passion) but to live my own life, as I am no longer interestdd in drinking/smoking ad I am into exercising, eating right and looking after myself. I feel my lifestyle is definitely affected by his,and I end up slipping up with my health (however I do acknowledge this is my responsibility but I do get annoyed)

Despite this he is respectful, kind and loving towards me. So I second guess my feelings because I guess I do feel guilty and selfish for thinking like this. But I guess I just need advice as I don't feeling comfortable talking to anyone who personally knows us for respect for him