I just quit my job

This is really more of a vent than anything. But I’m always welcoming to advice.

I just quit my job of 4.5 years. I’m a licensed dog groomer and I have worked for the same company since I’ve become licensed.

A little back story: My manager got fired for forcing us to work through our lunches for a few years. Well then I told my friend she should try for her position and she got it. Now my friend has become my boss.

She hired a girl to become a bather and then moved her on to grooming school. We will call her “Betty” now Betty was in a on off relationship with a guy who is 15 years older than her and is also a groomer. Betty has told us such bad things about this guy. Betty ended up back together with the guy. My boss/friend decides to hire him. It’s been nothing but trouble since.

He is MEAN to dogs. Yelling, cursing, wacks them with a brush. He’s constantly rearranging the schedule and moving dogs off of me or on to me. He is loud, obnoxious, and hostile. Myself and all the other groomers have put in MANY complaints about him for the past year. And he only ever gets talked to.

Meanwhile I became pregnant last year. I was told they didn’t have enough staffing to help me team lift dogs onto tables and into tubs. And that if I wanted help I needed a doctors note. So I got a doctors note stating I needed to be helped to life and my management told me that I was no longer allowed to groom large and x large dogs.

Now Betty is pregnant 2 months after me. Betty gets all the team lifts in the world. Has never needed a doctors note. And was never forced to be taken off of large and x large dog availability.

Betty and I had our babies. I came back to work Betty did not. Betty’s boyfriend still works there and constantly calls out, or calls owners and lies saying he has a family emergency and rescheduled dogs. It has made the salon look really bad and I have had to deal with the brunt end of screaming customers who are mad over his issues.

Betty’s boyfriend again only gets talked to.

Recently he has been using unsafe blades in sensitive areas, moving dogs around on other groomer schedules, and even yelled and got in the face of management as if he was going to hit her. It’s an extremely toxic environment.

After being gone for my days off I returned today. When my boss let me know I work with only him tomorrow I simply asked if he was spoken to about the whole moving dogs thing. She yelled at me, told me that it all worked out. I had a gap in my schedule so it was fine. I told her the gap was because I asked my x large golden doodle to come in 3 hours early to accommodate the dogs he didn’t want to groom and moved over to me without asking. She yelled and said it’s his story vs. mine.

You can go onto the computer and see the date, time, and groomer who moved the dog. She would see that it was moved at 9:37am and I didn’t even start my shift until 10:00am.

So when she told me “it’s fine it all worked out” I said “yeah because it always works out for Betty’s boyfriend”

I went into the back, called my husband in tears asked him if he would be okay if I quit. He said yes please do

So I walked back out and said I quit. Grabbed my things and left.

15 mins later boss/friend calls me. Yelling at me. Telling me this will be our last conversation ever, and that I’m immature and too emotional and I didn’t even give her the chance to explain. And told me she “was calling to talk some sense into me but I guess that can’t be done”

I so badly want to report the whole company, her, Betty’s boyfriend to HR but I don’t know what they would do or what to even report.

I feel free finally from all the drama and toxicity but I’m also scared that everything is now on my husband

If you took the time to read all of this thank you and sorry it’s so long