Husband was sexually abused by his own brother

My husband was sexually abused and raped at the age of 5 by his 16 year old brother. To go more in details, my brother in law made him perform oral sex on him. My husband and his brother has always been close, except that my brother in law never valued his brother or did anything special for him. Didn’t come to our wedding, visit, etc.

They had a fall out when my husband and I drove 8 hours to come visit him, his wife and kids with our 4 month old daughter at the time (just so he can see our first born). It was over something small but somehow it led to my husband and us being completely cut off. Shortly after, my husband told me what happened with him when he was a child. I was shocked. My brother in law and his wife are pretty crappy people who pretends to be better than everyone and somehow everyone in the family kisses up to them. They manage to get everyone on their side. But this time I’ve noticed that they’re going the extra mile to get closer to the rest of the family members and have a sense that they’re talking negatively about us. Because I’ve noticed a shift of vibes from everyone. My brother in law’s wife doesn’t know what he did. And as much as I want to be petty and tell her off about what her husband did. I feel as though it’s not my place. My husband tried telling his mother without saying it was his brother and her response was “I’ve been molested as a child too” I have a feeling she knows but is trying to protect her favorite son. I love and value my husband but his family is toxic. Every one of them. Am I wrong for thinking about cutting everyone of them off from my kids and husband’s life?

I will respond to your comments on this question thread to remain anonymous. Thanks to everyone of you.

@Ashley. No, I don’t think the mother would’ve abused her son. She was too busy going from one man to another.

@perfect.imperfection. Even if I told her, knowing the person she is, I doubt she’ll do anything. She doesn’t have her life together and solely relies on her husband, financially, mentally, etc. it would destroy her. She also found out after her mother’s death that she was the product of rape. She had a terrible relationship with her mom. And she almost has 0 family to go to. I know this will humble her but I don’t want to ruin her life. She has no where to go. I do believe that my husband could careless if I told his family but again, I believe it’s not my place.

@perfect.imperfection I understand the concern. Trust me it’s there. But I’m torn and I feel like he changed and could’ve been a mistake he made as a horny teenager. If I do decide to tell anyone. How should I approach?

No, we only got close when her mom passed away. She’s her husband’s follower. So I was cut off as her husband did the same thing with his brother