Advice on LDR

Hello again! I recently posted about retrieving my stuffed animal from my long-distance fiancé before our relationship ends (even though that talk still needs to happen). While I’m here, I’d like to run by my concerns to see if they’re justified. This is probably going to be long 😅

To start with some positives, my fiancé genuinely loves me and wants to marry me once we work on our college debts (we dated through college and graduated together). He lives 3 hours away from me and has been to visit about three times since he moved in March 2021.

Moving on to the concerns. His driving is terrible (I’ll offer to drive when he visits just so I’m not terrified on any outings we go on). I’ve talked to him about it before, but nothing’s changed.

He’s messy and careless. His car often has multiple water bottles and drinks scattered along the floor along with fast food bags (not to mention the crumbs everywhere). He hasn’t replaced the skid pad (whatever the thing that covers the oil pan is called) since it came off in June. He eats in his bed and gets crumbs all over it. If he’s cooking, he’ll wipe his hands off on his pants, even if he’s cooking with raw meat.

His hygiene brings up some questions. The last time he came to visit for a week, he brushed his teeth maybe once.

He doesn’t always communicate with me. It’s not unusual for my messages to be left on read when he’s not at work. While he was job hunting, two of the professions he set his heart on serving the military (gave me the serious talk to prepare me for it) before changing his mind for something else and then returning to the first option. He also decided that farming was THE THING to do, and that’s “go back to school, buy property and animals” farming, not “learn about it from working on someone else’s farm to see if it’s a good fit.” Barely ran it by me first even though I would be involved in the farm as well.

Intimacy is thing, but it’s not equal. He’ll ask for spicy pictures of me when I can’t have anything similar of him. When he comes to visit (even when he lived closer to me), it’s handjobs and blowjobs. I’m saving my virginity until marriage, but there are other intimate things he could do which don’t happen.

There’s more to list, but I don’t want to overwhelm everyone more than I already have. I know I need to talk with him first, but is our relationship worth saving?

Thank you for your time! I’m sorry this is so long 😓