Y’all…..he said what?!?!

So last night my husband and I got into a fight. I’ll be honest, I approached the topic with sarcasm. It started because I said “What’s it like to be out of laundry and it magically appears clean, folded and put away?” To which my husband responded “It’s nice.” I continued to say things similar about the dishes, general house cleaning, etc. which I know is petty and childish but I’m fed up. I then told him how it hurts my feelings that he can see everything that needs to be done, walk right past me folding laundry and the kids taking a bath and immediately run himself a bath and relax. I explained that I feel ignored and unappreciated when he doesn’t even ask if I need help or even give me a kiss. His response was to ignore me the rest of the night, give me the silent treatment. He stayed in the bathroom for over an hour and went right to bed afterwards. Of course the fight continued this morning with me explaining why I was hurt and the only thing he said to me was “you are a brat, ignored you to punish you and teach you a lesson.” LIKE WHAT?!?!?! This immediately made me upset. I’m not a child and instead of being an adult and apologizing for ignoring me (which he rarely ever apologizes for anything, he says if he doesn’t see it’s wrong he shouldn’t have to apologize) he decided that I was just a “brat”. I then went in to say I’m such a brat for:

-explaining why I was upset and being invalidated

-asking for the bare minimum communication, respect and intimacy

-taking care of the kids, cooking, cleaning, school, dog, etc. by myself because since he is the “breadwinner” he is exempt (his words)

His response was to gaslight me and say “You never fight about one topic, you’re always finding something to be upset by” “ I don’t need to apologize for treating you the way you deserve for being a brat, you’re just upset that I told you the truth”. There was more but I’m just so upset that he doesn’t see or care enough to realize that he upset me.

He then left for work without saying anything. No hug or kiss. Am I in the wrong here?!!!