Hysterectomy without telling my partner

My partner and I have a 1 month old together and I want to go back to work. he seem to be coming up with all type of excuses for me not to go back to work like he went and got another job because I told him I wanted to go back to work. Before that when ever I mention the topic of me working he would change the subject back to himself working and childcare for the baby. When I mentioned daycare he shuts it down and when I mentioned family he keeps coming up with crap like they are only going to agree for a few days but then change their mind. Like this man took a job that pays less then his first job and less than the job I got offered just so I couldn’t work. Saying he wants me to be stay at home mom even though I said that wasn’t me before we had a child and that he wants more children even though I keep telling him I don’t. So I kept applying to job behind his back and I schedule to have a hysterectomy too. Is it wrong to get this done since has much as I love my son I absolutely hate being a stay at home mom cause I feel trapped and like I don’t have a life of my own.

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This is in response to a few people to have questions in the comments.

I wasn’t one of those kids are young women that grew up saying I can’t wait to have kids and be a wife those thoughts never crossed my until a 2 into our relationship after he asked me to marry him. Before that I talked about the whole baby thing and I made it clear I didn’t know how I felt about the subject and as time went on I started leaning to not really wanting them. I agree later agree that if I ever got pregnant then that it one and done no more which he agreed to. But it now changing his mind saying he wants a daughter 🙄.

We have talked about me being a SAHM before our child and I told him that wasn’t for me. I have no problem giving him the lead to provide but I would also like to have my own money. When I lost my job in 2020 he saw how depressed I got.

I am technically on maternity leave but I don’t want to go back to that job because honestly they suck

We have no reason or evidence to believe that my family won’t help because my mother is the one that started to reach out about watch our child while I work before he was born because she know I don’t like the idea of being a SAHM ( no offense to stay at home moms y’all are super super heroes to me). I am also not too trusting of leaving my child somewhere where I can’t drop in a see or know what’s happening with him but I found a daycare by our house that does exactly that. They have cameras set up so that parents can drop it and see their babies when ever they are there.

So yeah this isn’t a postpartum thing for me I always planned on going back to work after giving birth