AITA? I think intervention is needed for family friends’ kids

So my husband has this friend who I do NOT like. At all. They’ve been friends for 4 years, and truly I think my husband just has major abandonment issues and doesn’t want to let his best friend go. Imo… he’s awful.

Today I told my husband I was considering calling child welfare because I’m super concerned and wasn’t sure if he wanted to be a part of that. He was PISSED because apparently it’s none of anyones business what people do with their kids and he doesn’t care. I know foster care can be horrible so I’m stuck on what to do!! My hope would be they’d offer classes and resources.

Here’s what’s happening:

- Excessive alcohol use, so bad that one of their livers is failing and the other has health problems as well. In front of the children, to the point they can’t care for them. Often.

-Constant weed use (no y’all, I don’t hate weed) it’s just absolutely constant and in front of/around the kids. They even did it around my kids and they haven’t been able to go back since.

-Their house would probably be condemned. It’s filthy, white doors brown with dirt and mold. Floors and ceilings falling in, etc. Water often doesn’t work.

-They leave GUNS with ammo out around the kids. As a law enforcement/military family we are used to firearms but are extremely stringent on safety and education. I find this abhorrent.

-He yells, threatens the kids, calls them horrible things (you f*cking stupid little sh*t!!)

-Lastly, a couple days ago he was in the hospital and the kids FaceTimed him while a mutual was there. Showed him their mom laying in the floor blackout drunk. So he just started screaming and cussing them all out.

So now we have parents drinking until they’re blacking out, with guns, ammo and weed accessible to even the toddler. Everything is stuff they’ve said themselves and/or I’ve seen. Except the last one seen by a mutual.

I feel like this has already gone on WAY too long but people swear I should just ignore it. Maybe I should?? Tell me if I should just ignore it or if the system is worse. I didn’t experience most of that growing up so maybe it is!!

ETA: I agree with you guys. This friend has been a major problem between us. The only problem really. Since they became friends, my husband had to cut off his entire family (they’re incredibly abusive) and he’s white knuckling this friendship. I disagree with it completely but also understand he’s in a bad place with his relationships. So I’m torn on that.