My best friend doesn’t want my bf at her wedding ?

Question

So my boyfriend and I have been dating about two years, we are absolutely in love, he’s also very protective which I will get too. My best friend lives out of state she moved away about a year ago, she met a guy and they are getting married in a couple of months. Originally, my friend said bringing a plus one was fine, and she gave me recommendations on hotels were me and my bf could stay for the wedding. I am a bridesmaid as a well. Well maybe a few weeks go by and my friend says my boyfriend is no longer invited because they have limited availability for the venue. That really stinks, and my boyfriend was offended, but I also understand that sometimes things like that our out of our control so I wasn’t upset with her in the slightest. I told her that’s fine, my boyfriend would still come with me and he would just hang out in our hotel while I was attending the wedding, he wanted to do this because he was t comfortable with me traveling that far by myself, which I appreciate. I told him he didn’t have to do that, but he said he wanted too. My friend was fine with this as well and thought it was sweet of him, but then a couple more weeks go by and she says my boyfriend shouldn’t come at all, because she wanted the bridesmaids to go out the night before the wedding, and also because one of the other bridesmaids was having trouble affording to stay in the hotel because she is also from lit of town, and she wanted to room with me. How am I suppose to take this? I mean I do understand seating availability and stuff happens, but the fact that she consistently changed her mind over and over about him attending, why not just tell me ahead of time he can’t come? But also why does it matter if he comes or not if he’s not attending any of the wedding events at all? He just wanted to make sure I wasn’t traveling alone. Also why does him being there stop us from going out the night before if he wasn’t attending anyway? Maybe I’m just not aware of how weddings are suppose to go, could someone explain this to me? I guess I’ll just have to go by myself and room with this random girl?

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If you are paying for the hotel then you have a say in who you room with. She can’t tell you that your boyfriend can’t stay at the hotel with you. That’s nuts.

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Honestly, it’s one night. Your friend is only going to have this wedding once. Just don’t worry about it hun. I feel like your friend maybe knows your bf is over protective and she doesn’t want him around encase he ruins plans… like you guys going out and having a good night. Just go out and have fun be there to support your best friend and catch up with boyfriend next day ❤️

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You shouldn’t be obligated to share a room with anyone. If he wants to be there, and not attend the wedding that should be up to him and you, not her. She’s going over the top on that last request.

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It’s annoying that she is trying to change the plans, but I think it’s also annoying when men won’t let women go somewhere alone. Maybe that’s how she feels and she doesn’t want him being “worried” about you and the other women going out.
If you really want him to go and he wants to go then tell her you two already made the plans and booked your hotel so he’s going to come but you can still go out the night before.

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Nah he should go. Makes me wonder why she doesn’t want him there. If my husband knew I was traveling away alone far like that he’d likely go too if his work allowed it and stay at the hotel while I attend a event. For the same reasonings too. Are you paying for the hotel? If so it’s up to YOU guys as a couple to decide. It’s not fair to throw a random girl you don’t know as your responsibility. Your traveling for her. It’s your decision.

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I would still take him if he’s ok with you being gone the night before the weeding and day of the wedding . Your the one paying for the room. So idk why your best friend is trying to control who’s in your room and can’t be in the room with you

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First off. If this keeps happening I’m sorry I would be telling her maybe it’s best I don’t come period. Your an adult you can bring your boyfriend where ever you want. He was not going to her wedding or anything so no don’t change plans. It’s not your issue that others can’t do things or afford things. Honestly I would be telling her I was no longer in the wedding but that’s just me good luck. She does not control your life. She can control her wedding but not your life remember that

My best friend doesn’t want my bf at her wedding ?

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