What can I do in my sex life?

It’s so boring. We have been together 5 years. Right after my 3 year old was born I was told I had beginning stages cancer in the uterus. So they did a hysterectomy took everything but ovaries. Sex has been blah ever since. My vagina stays dry. Which is from the hysterectomy I was told by the OB. It sucks cause I can’t get wet even when I’m turned on, I’ve struggled with this so we use lube.

There’s no for play. I love to slowly kiss and then make our way to sex but my partner never does. He just rips my pants off and we start that way and it gets so old. He doesn’t touch me and I want that. Like play with me the same way I do with you. I’ve told him this.

I like being choked hair pulled etc. He doesn’t do this and I’ve told him I like this. It’s the same positions every single time. Doggy style which don’t get me wrong I love it but after time it gets super old boring nothing exciting. We try other positions and it takes him forever to finish, I have trouble feeling him. My ob told me it’s from having kids and my surgery my pelvic floor is weak so there’s fhat. I plan on starting like kegels soon to help that but idk what more I can say to him. I’ve already communicated my needs with him, I’ve tried buying toys for us. That lasted maybe a week trying out. It’s just so boring I don’t feel turned on ever he just wants to get right into it and I hate it. What more can I say?) at this point we only have sex maybe twice a month. Any advice ? 😭😭😭