Second pregnancy guilt?

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With my first, my pregnancy was so blissful. I remember cherishing every minute I was pregnant, even through the aches and pains.
This time around, I'm chasing an almost 4 year old all day and feel like I'm not soaking up this pregnancy like I did before. My body is so much more sore, I'm more physically and mentally exhausted and I just feel miserable most days. 
I'm incredibly grateful to be pregnant and I don't take it for granted in the slightest.
I just have some guilt for not feeling as connected this time around because I barely have time to sit and soak it all in.
Anyone else feel the same?

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I absolutely understand. With my first pregnancy I remember laying in bed at night marveling at baby moving inside me… Now when baby moves at night I’m so exhausted from chasing my first around all day that I’m just like, “ugh, please go to sleep.” Lol. And I feel guilty about it too, but I think it’s normal. It’s harder and more tiring when you already have kids

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I literally was about to post a similar thread a few days ago as I’m in the same boat. Forever grateful to have been blessed with a pregnancy after 2 years of trying, but i adored being pregnant first time round, even to the point when my son arrived 3 weeks early, I was upset as I enjoyed being pregnant so much! This pregnancy, I’ve been so miserable and tired, literally drop my son to school then come home and go back to bed. I feel like I’m wasting the days, not spending quality time with my son while it’s just the 3 of us, as Im just sore and feel “blah” every day 🥺 Only a few weeks left but your feelings are justified and understandable so thank you for speaking out so we don’t feel alone in our struggle 💕

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Thats just how it is when you have multiple children. I feel the same because im just sooo busy with work, teenager and toddler. Doesn’t take away from the fact you love your growing baby. Its not easy but try to be kind to yourself momma. You’re still doing great 👍🏾

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I cannot express how much I feel exactly the same! My little boy is 4 this weekend and I feel like I just don’t get a chance to think. I feel like I cannot even believe we are going to have another baby so soon and that I will be in total shock when he is born 🙈

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Oooooh yeaaaaaa. I'm on baby number 3 and with my first two I was fine up until delivery. I enjoyed pretty much every moment. Im sure it had it's ups and downs but for the most part I was never like "get this baby out". With this one...I feel like I've been saying that since my first trimester. I was sick the whole time, then the baby was so low my tailbone wanted to rip off, now that I'm in my third trimester, my hips want to die, these kicks physically hurt unlike my first two and it seems like she NEVER sleeps and is ALWAYS moving. I am partly animic and have a full time job. All while I'm trying to deal with a 5 and 3 year old. I literally can not WAIT for birth day, not that it will get easier but at least dad can assist at that point. I actually thought about throwing a labor party 🤣 but... every once in awhile I remember to slow down and just talk to her because none of it is actually her fault. So I tell her my issues..."baby girl, mommy is so tired and your kicks hurt, please calm down." And I rub my belly cause they can feel your hand. But it's not all the time because the crazy of life is overwhelming. Once the baby is here, I'm sure all will be well.

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I just wanted to thank you for sharing your story. I have been feeling exactly the same way, and reading your post made me feel like I am not alone in all of this. I don’t know if it’s because I’m older, not in the best shape I was in the first time around, or because I have an almost 4 year old who constantly need’s me all day, but this pregnancy has definitely been a much harder experience for me. As you mentioned most days are a struggle, and I’m just doing my best to get through them. I’m always tired, I have way less patience, and there is always something hurting🤦🏽‍♀️. My husband and I both wanted this pregnancy, and purposely tried to get pregnant so I am very grateful to my body for everything it has done but it can be hard to feel happy, and enjoy each moment sometimes. We were both definitely much more connected to my first pregnancy, and that does sometimes make me feel bad, but I try to tell myself once she gets here we will find that connection, and love her just as much as our first. At this point I’m just counting down the weeks until my baby girl gets here, and trying to stay strong/positive for what our families future holds. I wish you strength, happiness and patience in these last few weeks😊

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I feel I could have made this same post. My son will be 4 Saturday. And this pregnancy has been a tsunami compared to my pregnancy with him which was a breeze.

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