My husband and I have a 2.5 year old daughter and our son just turned a month old.

He’s great with our daughter now but when she was a baby he didn’t help at all. Claimed it was because he was “scared of babies”. It felt pointless to me to wake him up in the night to help since I was already up.

When I got pregnant again he swore things would be different. That he would help when he could. We’ll surprise surprise, everything is exactly the same.

He’s probably fed our son a handful of times and held him just as many. I’ve been paying attention it’s been 3 days since he even last held our son. 3 straight days!!

I get it. I’m a stay at home mom and he works 3rd. He sleeps a lot of the day. But when he has ANY free time, it’s spent doing things he wants to do instead of spending time with us.

I’ve complained multiple times about this and he complains I’m overreacting and that he’ll start helping more, which he doesn’t.

Tomorrow I’m supposed to go out with my family for my brothers bday kid free for once. My husband has known this for weeks. Today he asks if he can have his mom watch our kids so he can go hunting…I was so livid when he asked me that. I NEVER ask him to watch the kids solo and the one time I do (I made sure to tell him for weeks “don’t make plans this day”) he tries pawning them off to someone else. When I blew up he told me I was being crazy and blowing it out of proportion.

He is BEYOND selfish and he’s completely blind to it. I couldn’t imagine not holding my child for even one day, let alone 3.

I resent him soooo much and I’ve told him so. He says he cares but clearly doesn’t. I’m sick of feeling like a single parent.

He came home from hunting today (which today he “promised” he’d stay home and spend time with us. Shocker that he didn’t) and I blew up on him. He again told me I was crazy. I walked away to wash my sons bottles and I’m literally balling my eyes out over the sink because I’m so angry and fed up. He saw me crying and didn’t say a word.