So your husband works out of town alot and has been gone all week. We have a 2 year old.

Comes home for a funeral for a guy he used to be friends with in school (hasn't talked to in 6+ years) texts you after the funeral and says "don't know when I'll be home, everyone I know is here" and hasn't said anything since. This was at 2 its now 9pm. Checked the account, he's spent 140$ on booze. So clearly he plans to not come home.

Last weekend, he was out of town for work where is brother lives. Spent 300$ at an arcade bar.

The weekend before that (left to go drink at a friend's spurotically)

We've been going to therapy about all this since August when I almost left him.

Needless to say, I'm incredibly upset. Mostly upset that he didn't even ask me if I wanted to go hang with everyone after the funeral, instead I'm the default parent. As always.