Please help! I need ideas ASAP!

My husband and I are doing our first FET transfer on Monday and we have been open with our families from the beginning about our struggle and our appointments. My question is- since they are expecting a yes or no to being pregnant, how can we tell them in a special way that may still surprise them? I don’t want to just call up and say “guess what”. This will hopefully (fingers crossed and prayers said) be our rainbow baby. We lost our son in 2020 at 12 days old after a hard fight in the nicu. We want this to be special for us all, so give me ideas! We should know for sure by Saturday so I’m just trying to prepare ahead of time! Thank you in advance!

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B

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When I did my most recent transfer, we told very few people and those that we did tell we made it clear that we wouldn't be sharing news no matter which way it went. I honestly couldn't have timed it any better. We transferred in October and my husband and I took a trip to Maine with my parents (we went up for graduation so they thought nothing of it). To be honest, they're the only people we really told until I couldn't keep it a secret anymore as I was too big. I just didn't want to tell anyone lol.Anyway, on this trip we decided to host a game night. We really played into it. Kept asking about game preferences and snacks, etc. We followed up multiple times to drive it home. Hubby and I went hiking that morning so they really just thought it didn't work. A few years ago we found a gag-gift psychology game (attaching a pic) of those blot cards. The ones were you're like "tell me what you see." We taped our US pic to the like 7th or 8th one. They were SHOCKED lol. It worked so well since it was already in black and white. May take some creativity but you can def surprise them! I also had ordered some golf balls filled with powder for genders for a driving range day. Balloons, cake, mugs with the messages on the bottom. Just depends on what you really want!

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B • Oct 30, 2022
Also I'm so very sorry for your loss. That's such a tough thing to endure.

Z

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We told everyone who knew we were doing it a date we would know by…and knew we would know before that so we were able to surprise them in different ways when they weren’t expecting it.

Ra

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I loved the idea of a pregnancy announcement card with a scratch off panel. They do some lovely ones on Etsy. I wish I’d have not told my family the dates I was starting treatment though. When they didn’t find out the second I did they freaked out and pushed me to tell them. It was over the phone and not the way I wanted to announce to my family. Good luck whatever you decide xx