So me and my husband have the same argument about things. I'm the one that takes care of all the cooking and cleaning. We have a toddler and I'm pregnant. Hes a great dad and help with cleaning when he can. But recently I became a stay at home mom because of child care and finances and then I got pregnant and it's been a pregnancy where I'm non stop going to urgent care. But before this we'd always argue because somtimes I'd forget to start the dishwasher or I accidentally dropped the dryer lint but I don't do this often. He also is turning into his mom where he wants his home to be like those model homes but our house isn't disgusting and it isn't unorganized. It's just not to his standard. I get him being annoyed because somtimes he does stuff I don't like about the house and I let him know and I mention it again or I honestly just huff and take care of it because it's so easy to put his socks in the laundry basket. I don't want to argue and I see he tries but it's not a habit for him. So today I got my flu shot and I've been turning the dish washer on. It's been a while since I haven't done it. And he always asks if the dishes are cleaned and it isn't because he wants to know because there are plenty of clean dishes in the drawers and cabinets. I feel like he wants to lecture me. So today I was tired and deep cleaned and cooked and my toddler needed a nap so I honestly forgot. And so he got so mad and started to yell and lecture me as if I was his daughter and curse . He didn't call me out of my name but I let him know I get hea upset and I'm sorry but please don't curse at me and he said it's so important to him that I do it and I should care because it's important to him and do I want to argue about the same thing. But he kept cursing and I had to walk away. I get his point of view but I'm drained. He didn't even care that everything was deep cleaned and there was food and I had a long day. I understand his point but not to the point where I'm being lectured and cursed at. What should I do or say ? Should I just keep apologizing and put a sticky note ? I'm honestly lost.