My ex boyfriend (30 M) messaged me first on dating app, was very keen.

3 months dating, he never asked me or brought up the conversation about where the relationship was going, but started introducing me as his girlfriend to his friends and calling me his girlfriend.he was always telling me how beautiful I was and how lucky he was. He was a super super nice guy, everyone loved him, he was understanding and patient and kind, had the sweetest manner about him

I really liked him and cared for him, so I was always doing nice things. He loved sparkling water so I always kept a supply at my house. I cooked us nice meals. When he was sick, I got him all the meds he needed. I insured him on my car.

At the same time, I was telling him I would love to be taken on a date one day as he never had planned anything or took me out for a meal or anything.

I started to notice he never did any kind gestures. E.g. if we went to Starbucks, he would order his drink and I would have to order mine separately. If I stayed at his house, he would make himself breakfast and not offer me, I would always bring my own cereal bars as I knew I’d be hungry. He never cooked a meal for us both when I stayed over. When we went to a hotel for the weekend which had a pub next door, when I said I was hungry and fancied getting dinner there, he said he didn’t want to and instead we just went to the shop to get crisps.

One day, he was staying the weekend at my house and there was a storm.m the last train home on the Sunday night was cancelled and he had work in the morning. I woke up at 5am and drove him to his house and as I work from home, I sat up in his bedroom working. He didn’t check up on me all day or show me where to get food or drink (he was a lodger in a family home). And when he came home from work, he had got himself lunch from the shop and not asked me. He didn’t even thank me for driving an hour to take him home.

Even on my birthday, I thought he was taking me to a cafe, but asked for the money for my meal afterwards. He was pretty broke,but he spent 100s on gaming equipment for himself etc

And sometimes he would be so moody with me over small things. One day he said he wanted chicken wings for dinner so I drove him over to the takeaway but when we got there, it was closed. We got oven pizzas instead but he was sulking all night, slamming pots around and not talking to me, all because he was upset it was closed.

He dumped me in summer and I felt awful. Tried downloading the dating apps but for some reason, men just don’t reply. I used to get loads of replies and good chats, I don’t understand and feel pretty doomed. I always felt undersirablw growing up so when my ex was interested in me, it was the first guy that’s ever shown that and I don’t know why. I wanted to hold onto that and make it work and now I’m back to just having no dating options whatsoever