So I've been working part time at night since our baby is 9 months. (he's 2,5 now)

my partner also works nights.

right now he's been off medically and has been stretching it out due to my job making changes and we don't have the childcare (I was working from home 100% of my hours and due to company policy changing, so I feel like I must clarify it is not by anything I did or didn't do, It was reduced by 50%, So I now have to work 50% of my hours in the office.)

We're in western Europe and my husband is paid about 75% of his wage for his medical absence from work.

For a long term solution I've been looking for a new job and found one. I can start on December first for their sake. My job won't let me go until January 1st. Since I work a night job, I could theoretically work both. This was my partner's idea. my idea was that I would take some leave days at the end of December, chill out those days and start my new job with renewed energy, which seems like a smart thing to do, I'll have to learn a lot of new things and being there with a clear and fresh mind makes sense to me. My partner also wants to go back to work, he'll gain back his leave days he didn't take due to medical absence, so theoretically he could actually take those on days I need to go into the office. However he wants me to almost twist my managers arm to make me work from home much more often (almost 100 %) while I combine my old job and my new job.

I actually would prefer not to combine them, as I feel it would leave me pretty exhausted and it won't be a good start at my new job. but we do actually need the money badly as we currently have unpaid bills every month and there will be no Christmas gifts as is.