My in laws have a record of being inappropriate with my family. My husband and I noticed it first when we were engaged. Examples of things that have happened are my MIL apparently NEEDING time with her son before we got married because she wouldn't get enough time with him on our wedding day, she asked me if I plan to "take her son away" from her the day before we got married, and she was drunk off her gourd on our wedding day.

Both she and my FIL are jealous whenever we spend a weekend at my parents house (4 hours away) because we don't spend whole weekends with them (an hour away) when the time we spend with them tends to be more frequent. They actually disrespected my parents when they opened up their house to not only my family, but them as well. They got so in their own heads that they packed up and left in the middle of the night. My parents were nothing but courteous to them, because they are wonderful people.

Then when I was pregnant with my first child they didn't care how I was feeling. They literally only thanked me for "giving them a grandchild " because she's not my child, she's THEIR grandchild. And when I had the baby they brought PARADES of people over to our house when she wasn't even a week old and didn't realize how disrespectful that was.

Now that we are pregnant again, they've already started telling people!! We have only told a select few people and honestly they were lucky to even be on the short list this time. They apparently "didn't know" that 6 weeks was too early to tell the world. idk...I'm at my wit's end with them.

We have done everything short of cutting them out of our lives entirely. We have had long discussions about what we feel is appropriate and inappropriate. We have shut them out for weeks just to calm down and get distance. There was even a heated and emotional screaming match once. Nothing seems to stop the disrespectful behavior. My husband and I hate to distance ourselves from them through the holiday season, but that may be what ends up happening.