To make a long story short , my boyfriend of 3+ years broke up with me last month with almost no notice. It was very sudden and heartbreaking. We have a lot of history together that i’m not going to get in to but he told me the reason he wanted to break up with me was because our trust was gone and i agreed. He had lied to me about sleeping with other people and he hid the fact he was married for over 2 years so naturally it was hard for me to believe him after years of lies.

Anyways, that was last month. He’ll still text me seeing how i’m doing and he’ll tell me that his daughter misses me. He would only text me 1-2 a week at most so i let it slide , it’s been really hard on me and talking to him made it better at first. Then last week we started calling each other for hours every other day or so. It was just friendly conversation, not romantic or sexual or anything like that. We were just talking like we were friends again.

Then we started talking about where we see our future going. I was talking about my career and my daughter and how i knew that some point in the near future i was going to have to stop talking to him. He then explained that he sees us getting back together within the next year or so and we got into an argument because i felt like he only broke up with me to see other people and how it wasn’t fair for me to feel like i have to ‘wait for him’. He then said he didn’t want to hurt my feelings or have me ‘take this the wrong way’ but he said he felt like “he could always come back into my life, no matter where i was , what i was doing or who i was with ”.. i’ve been thinking about it since. I just don’t understand what the point was. I felt like i was starting to heal again but now i feel like i’m starting over from square one because that statement is just on repeat in my head.