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It’s literally his child too, that’s messed up. He needs to step up & help.
Newborn and lack of help
Hi,
So basically, I have a newborn beautiful baby that was born two months premature. He is now two months old but was only due a few days ago.
My partner works but I will be working from next month again.
When we went into this, he said we would share night feeds. However, since having our boy it's been all me. I am DRAINED. I have zero help at all during the night. Nothing. He sleeps in a separate room so he doesn't have to hear the crying etc and justifies not helping with 'i have to go to work'.
Am I expecting too much for wanting some help in the night?
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He's a stupid selfish man , did he know baby's cry right ? And did he know having a baby is a 24 h commitment full job right ? I wouldn't accept that ! I'm sorry that he has to work so will you soon , he has to help is also his task not only yours , that man should behave as what he is ... A father ... Now u both work what he's excuse will be ?
Lu
Well definitely he needs to change up his mind , and of he's not changing u'll need to decide if this is good for you sweetheart , maybe he's not aware of the fact that he keeps acting that way he's gonna loose you ... I really hope the best for you n your sweet baby 💖💖good luck n if u need to talk u can reach me up anytime
Lx
I tried to explain how I feel and I asked what happens when I go back to work. I got silence. I got stonewalled. I feel so anxious I don't understand why it's come to this
Lu
He is the father of that kid he don't need to make excuses such as work , we all work and have stuff in life , that's life ...i would just go and tell him like this , I'd sit and tell him what's his plan is now that u gonna start working , is both u guys responsibility, babys don't understand about working or lack of sleep they just need u both , to begging with i wouldn't let him move into another room to not b bothered by baby crying ....hello!? He needs to grow up
Tbh - I don't want my husband to help at night- he drives 100 miles a day and teaches Chemistry- he can't afford to screw up at work or driving in... so I do the nights and he get up with our other son in the morning
Re
Also/ as you are from England and have a professional job I'm really surprised that your maternity pay/leave isn't better
Re
😰 that sounds really tough, if you are both doing similar things/hours and you can both share feeds etc then that isn't fair..
Lx
That's completely different. We both work in London, we both work the same hours. I go back to work in a few weeks time. My job is no easier than his. I'm an accountant, I cannot afford to fuck up at work. We went into this agreeing we would both do nights. We both wanted a baby. We're not kids we are in our 30's. I feel majorly let down and unheard
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