I’m not enjoying sex with my partner anymore. I’ve tried speaking to him about what I need, but nothing seems to change.

He usually “starts himself off” downstairs and then comes upstairs, touches me for 2 seconds then we have sex. Most the time we don’t even kiss. I even made an effort and wore nice lingerie tonight which he didn’t take any notice of.

I want kissing and touching, to make him hard through foreplay, rather than him coming upstairs ready to go. I want to take our time and enjoy each other before we have sex.

I understand this can’t always be the case, especially mid-week when we’re tired. But I feel unsatisfied and upset after we have sex. I just want to cry, this has been going on for a long time. I want the passion and not being able to keep our hands off each other. I’m getting fed up. I don’t look forward to having sex anymore. I miss our spark.

Our relationship is perfect (as a normal relationship can be) in every other aspect. I just don’t feel wanted during sex.

I feel like it doesn’t matter how many times I speak with him about my needs, nothing changes.

Any advice??