I received a Cease and Desist Letter from the wife of my ex.

Please read before judging or responding.

I'll try to be short. 2.5 years ago, I met a man who lied about being divorced. He presented falsified documents of his divorce (forged signatures and etc) just to show me, and of course, I believed it.

Well, 6 months into our relationship, his supposed ex-wife moved back to the state from TN after apparently "healing" from the divorce enough to see him again and allow him to be a father. She knew about me from the start. So the entire time, I thought they were divorced and co-parenting. We hadn't met, but I was under the impression that we both just weren't ready to meet. Her more than me and I respectful of that.

Fast forward a few more months. They were arguing about something pertaining to the kids the night before Christmas 2020. He stopped taking her calls so she calls me and tells me they were still married that I was a hoe and a dumb bitch. Keep in mind he proposed to me 2 weeks down to the day before all of this. Of course I was shocked (if this sounds familiar....well it's because I posted about this back when it happened). I told her that I didn't want to be involved to which she told me fuck you and I know where you live with your kids bitch. She then went on to mention my address. We took my daughters and his daughter to my sisters that night because she threatened my life and my daughters who were only 3 & 6 at the time. It ruined our entire Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>. Anyway, For weeks she and I called and talked about everything. Piecing together the parts of everything that never really made sense or made too much sense about him and other situations. This went on for months. Some months we'd argue and others things were amicable. We definitely weren't friends or close to it but close enough to call or text when we felt like we needed more answers. Then months passed and nothing. After officially leaving him because they both lied about getting a divorce.. (he and I were on/off after that situation). I started getting random blocked calls. I knew it was her because most calls I could hear the 2 year old. I would tell her hey I know it's you. Please stop calling me. It didn't stop.

I'd reach out to him and ask him to help and to no avail. I finally started calling to find out what her problem was and even told her I was going to go to the police but we'd chat (calmly) and mysteriously the blocked calls stopped. Let's fast forward, I'm still getting blocked calls up until August 2022. In July, I recieved a blocked call and I hear her daughter's name... so in an attempt to defuse the whatever the fuck is going on I text her and ask her to meet me for some drinks. To find out why the hell is she STILL playing on my phone. She declined and kept mentioning my children and stupid I am and how I had to quote "suck and fuck for that ring he proposed with.". (I forgot to add that after officially breaking things off with him...I broke the lease to my apartment to move because he kept showing up unannounced and a couple of times I seriously thought he was going to hit me)

After she declined my offer for drinks, everything went silent which was fucking great. And then I fucked up (I will admit) I reached out after word of mouth that she successfully filed for and finalized divorce. To tell her that I was happy for her and that she deserves peace because he definitely wasn't worth the headache.

Here I am 2 months later with a Cease and Desist Letter from her attorney...saying that I have been harassing her for the duration of 2.5 years. Which is not true!! She knew about my relationship with him well before she even moved back to the state. She admitted to that. I never had her contact information, she had mine. She's created numerous accounts to watch my Facebook page (I had to change my FB name) and I also deactivated my Instagram. It's been down for about a year now!!

The last time my name was brought into something was when she was upset that he stopped answering her calls. I can't help but to now feel like she's doing this to find a way to drag me into their divorce.

I've moved on with my life!! I am finally happy again.

I've already contacted my attorney just waiting to hear back and I know most of C&D don't require a response but I want to respond. To protect my children mainly and also myself because they have now exposed my address to her and to him (he was just arrested 10/16 for DV)

I feel like my world is spinning all over again because of HIM. I think my reaching out

I feel like this is defamation and I'm concerned about her having my new address because of her lousy attorney (I say lousy because in the letter they listed the children's full names as part of the divorce case). The letter seemed rushed and honestly quite lazily put together. Nonetheless, as their client and as part of her paperwork that woman and my ex now have my new address.

Is there anything I can do about this? I know my attorney will advise me but I really need input in the interim. My nerves are getting bad. Not because I'm scared of her but HIM. He almost jumped on me in front of my 2 daughters. Something she didn't and probably doesn't know about.

I don't care for her like AT ALL!!

Thanks for any advise.