im giving my bf a hand job for the first time soon. i’ve already researched like different techniques and pretty much what to do, however there are a few things i’m still unclear on.

is it practical to sit on his lap when jerking him off? we’re most likely going to be in his van (it’s pretty roomy), so we are limited to certain positions. i think making out with him and being face to face is the most intimate way but i’m not sure if it’ll get awkward or if that’s a practical way to get him off.

would my spit be sufficient enough as lube? and do i spit on my hand? i feel like that’s a little weird

is there a high chance he won’t finish?

what are some things i can say to him while getting him off?

is there gonna be a really big mess? i know this probably depends but i’m just wondering like after he finishes what can i do to help with the mess?(without getting my mouth involved)

aftercare?