My bf and I have been together for almost a year.... and we rarely have sex. At the beginning, he said hes never been in a relationship with a thriving and consistent sex life but was happy to have that with me (like i feel most men are). Hes very "respectful" but so much so that he never initiates anything we do. I have to lead EVERYTHING. The first 6 months or so was more consistently intimate because I didn't really care but my previous relationships were always opposite in the man always initiating things. I'm starting to obviously get more comfortable around him which means I'm getting tired of always having to initiate it. I feel like hes not attracted to me and doesn't value our intimacy. I have talked to him about it 3 times now in the past 2 months and no change. right before I decided to talk to him about it, he started turning me away... we would kiss for a bit and then he would push me away and say he wanted to go to bed. his job is exhausting but i cant help but take it personal? hes now having a problem getting hard and tells me its nerves and he thinks something is wrong. (he struggles with mild depression). hes a great boyfriend otherwise but im starting to feel insecure and neglected. its really stressing me out and i cant help but think if we married, we wouldn't have sex barely at all. do i sacrifice my needs and resort to toys, myself, etc. or is this a deal breaker? wondering if anyone has found the perfect match with an unsatisfactory sex life.