Is there a strategy in dating

every where I look it’s tips on how to keep a man, they like you mean, not to sweet, don’t give too much, cater to him, but make him work for it, show him love but not too much too soon. I don’t want to be strategic in a relationship. I like to love freely and not feel like I’m giving too much. I would give someone the world if I love them and they showed me they love me.