I was in a 4 year relationship. I have a 22 month old and I’m due next week. I left the relationship because I found out that my ex is a pedophile. The relationship should’ve been cut off before now, but 1) I held on because I had hopes things could change 2) things weren’t bad all the time 3) I now know it was a trauma bond and he is a narcissist and it’s not easy to just get up and walk away from something like that. Anyway, he is not the person I knew. He has COMPLETELY different practices. I’m not ready to date yet, but I have this fear of when I meet someone, I won’t know them and I want to make some checks to see if they are what I am looking for so I sat down and wrote a list of all the things I want to know about them. For example, what their relationship is like with God and their family, if they want to get married in the future… basically things to let me know them better and see what their views are on certain things. I have 130 questions written down and I told someone about it and they said it was crazy. I just don’t want to waste my time with anyone. I don’t want months to pass and then I realize there is something about you that I can’t deal with and then there is difficultly letting go or you compromise because you like the person or you don’t wanna start over. I don’t plan on asking all these questions in one sitting… I just want to know. My 4 year relationship was the only real relationship I was in. We started dating when I was 17, I lived with him, I had kids with him… so I don’t know much and I’m just 22 now.