Edit: idk if anyone caught on. We do share holidays. I get them Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a>. He gets them the morning of Christmas Day. I usually get them thanksgiving day and he gets them early Friday morning to Sunday. I’m willing to alternate thanksgiving but he doesn’t want to let me have them Friday-Sunday when he gets them thanksgiving day. But if I have them thanksgiving day, he wants them Friday-Sunday.

Anyone deal with baby daddy drama? My daughters dad is so difficult. He has an ideal schedule, he’s the “Disneyland Dad.” Since we split up 7 years ago, I’ve had them weekdays and he’s had them weekends (because they’re in school and we live 1.5 hours apart).

Holidays have always worked out for us. His immediate family is Jehovas witness so they never celebrate the holidays (although they do get together as a family on those holidays 🤨). But I’ve always had them thanksgiving day, Christmas <a href="https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.glow.android.eve">Eve</a> and he’s had them Friday-Sunday after thanksgiving and Christmas Day. And he’s never complained. Until now. Now that he’s married, he wants to change things and he wants us to alternate holidays.

Call me selfish but I don’t want to spend any holiday without my babies. I know eventually it’ll happen, but when they’re older. I’m engaged and I haven’t even changed my schedule with my girls for my fiancée so why should I change them for their dads new wife? Right? Or Am I wrong?

This year, he asked for the girls on thanksgiving day. After thinking about it, I told him yes. I would have them Friday-Sunday. Well now, he doesn’t want them thanksgiving day unless I agree to alternate holidays 🤯 and if he gets them thanksgiving, he wants them the whole weekend. Tell me how that’s fair? Im trying to work with him but he’s just impossible.

Am I being unreasonable? I told him we could talk about the holiday situation after the holidays this year because I have so much going on (nursing school, wedding planning, trying to buy a house) that I’m not trying to stress about anything else right now. He even said this year doesn’t have to change. So why stress about it now?

He’s always been difficult, even to let me have them on a weekend. For the summer, I told him we should alternate weeks so I could have them some weekends and he could have them more days. Well he refused because “why would he give up weekends? He works during the week” I work too and I pay for childcare (which he doesn’t help with). To me, he’s not a parent and he doesn’t want to be. He’s just like the cool uncle that gets to take them places but doesn’t want to deal with daycare, homework or chores or anything that has to do with parenting. His mom cooks for the girls and does their laundry.

Our relationship is so toxic but I don’t let the girls see that side. I try to be cordial but he makes it so hard.

Ok rant over. I’m just so annoyed I had to get it out.