I’m a ‘recovering over-sharer’, I have spent hours since teens agonizing over the private stuff I shared, often to untrustworthy people 😬 now in 30s iv learnt what over sharing is, that is what I was doing and that I don’t want to do it anymore. The problem is, when I’m with a fellow over-sharer, even untrustworthy one’s, I reciprocate by spilling my guts like we start at hiii, oh great thanks.. and quickly escalate to.. aww yeh i also suffered horrific heart break with a guy who cheated, now I’m sooo skint, look at my bank statement, here’s my pin.

It sort of happens so quickly that it’s only when I later reflect I think shit I wish I didn’t say that and especially to that person… But what else do you say when someone starts sharing about their personal life? Just keep quiet 🤐!? It’s not like a stranger on a bus, this is happening with family, colleagues, friends.

I also can’t stop over-sharing my feelings, even if I say over and over before meeting friends, keep it positive, don’t mention x.. as soon as they say ‘how’s x’.. I’m like welllllll x… 20 mins later.. sh!!!!t.

Helpful suggestions???!