So I’m about 8weeks pregnant and my husband just randomly left to get drinks with some guys he’s not even close to. I didn’t say anything but it’s like 9pm and he NEVER goes out like that, now I feel like he might have lied.

A little backstory is needed to understand why I feel this way. I few months before we found out about the baby I found he was liking a lot of girls’ pics on instagram and even massaging some of his “girl friends” really inappropriate stuff like “hey baby I’m gonna steal you from him” or “should we go get coffee” (when he KNEW damn well I was gonna be out of town with his sister) or like kisses and hugs emojis… I was SUPER hurt because we have had previously talked about him liking pics on FB and he said he’d stop and he supposedly did but then I found about all those other things. I have told him multiple times back then that I find it disrespectful towards me and all of his explanations were close to “I don’t pay attention, I just know them so that is why I do it”… Anyways, after I found about those massages I was just about to leave him but somehow decided he could use another chance. He swore nothing really happened but all of this is just like cheating to me.

Now, I’m just here thinking he’s out with this other girl he supposedly wanted to steal and not those guys that NEVER call him to hang out. I feel so hurt, but I don’t want to overreact over something that is probably nothing. Also we live in a VERY small town and the supposed place they’re at is right across the street from his family house. If that’s even something to consider here… I want to trust him but I also don’t want to be the girl that is staying at home while his having his fun with some other chick and also I don’t want to make him feel like he can’t go anywhere after all I know now…

UPDATE: So he was obviously there because his sister told me (I didn’t ask her). So I guess good thing I didn’t make a scene out of it. We are trying to work it all out. And it’s hard sometimes. I have my issues and he has his own but we want to work through them because damn it we are too good when we are good. Thanks all for taking the time to comment and the advice you gave. I have suggested counseling but he is somewhat reluctant of it although last time we argued he said “I don’t want to lose you, I’ll do whatever it takes” however he didn’t bring it up again so maybe I should remind him that I believe we could benefit from it and work better together.