So I don’t live far away from my mother in law like 15 minutes with car.

And usually go 2-3 times a week and I’m there for hour-hour and half.And when I go there I will go buy her some stuff order medications and she can be with kids.

But our schedule is different I wake up around 7:30 make breakfast kids eat I drink coffee make my self breakfast do dishes,laundry mop floor for crumbs.now is 10:15 and when I dress them and come there will be around 11.

Now she usually watch tv all night and by the time I come she wakes up,brush her hair and brush her teeth for half hour.Makes coffee also takes her that amount time and drink coffee for two hours (she takes meds with coffee -10 meds every morning and crushes each one of them with her teeth and takes sip of coffee).now is noon and I have to go home to make lunch my youngest wants to take nap.

And she always gets mad how I’m there so little.And I tell her I woke up early and I have other thing to do.

And yesterday I went to visit her since father in law came back to states.I came there around 11 she was in bathroom.

She tried to pic up youngest but couldn’t until she finished her meds.

I told her after hour I have to go baby want to sleep and I have to make lunch.

“Well he can sleep here,and there is green beans casserole for lunch”

“Kids don’t want to eat that and I’m on diet”

“Since you came to states(I moved here in 2017 to be with my husband) you never eat here)

“That is not true you know when I’m hungry I will eat”

And she said this all on purpose in front of father in law so he could say something.But tbh I don’t have patience for no one (including my own side of family).

And before you ask why I don’t come after noon:well youngest wake up we eat lunch,sometimes my oldest will take nap after that and he wakes up around 5pm.I want to relax,take kids to playroom since now is cold,their other aunt comes to see them,dinner time and now is time for bath/sleep time or their dad is home so they can some time with him(when he is home I don’t go then because I want kids to be with him).