I am currently dating someone we have talked in the past. He did things that where awfull. He ghosted me while I was very sick and when my grandpa died. Of course I did not text him back for about 3 years one day I finally did. Now he’s so different than that at the time of everything we were only 19 now we are 26 going on 27. He works has a place a car and wants to do better for himself. He does so many things to show me he cares And is sorry for what happened. My mom can’t stand him just mentioning his name she tells at me . When we hang out she goes in a rage saying ugly things like he just wants me for sex . To try having sex with others , that I’m an idiot , I have no dignity or respect. Unfortunately I still live with her. I was raised to always respect my mom and have lived my live catering to her cause I want her to be happy. I pay the bills but she still acts like I’m a kid calls me 12 -20 times every time I go out is crazy and I am not in the space to move out. She is making my life so difficult. I try to explain to her that if she could speak to him or just try to calm down but no. If I defend my choices she thinks he’s manipulating me but is just cause im 26 and I want to live my life . Now is just gotten to the point where I fell like I have to pick between him or my mom cause idk what else to do. Im so tired of her insults and im very apprehensive to make a life with him for the same fact he has left me. Is always the same with every guy I date she dosent like anyone and im done.