I have been going back and forth on whether I should have a third child for a long time now. I already have two boys and I wanted to try for a girl. The most important reason though is my husband does not help. The only reason everything is bearable right now is because I have my mother helping me. However, she's getting older and it's just too much of a burden on her. Of course she will still help. However, it should be my husband, that is doing his father role. Right now he just works, games, and sleeps in his man cave. He seems like he wants to start child and is putting for some sporadic temporary efforts that I don't think would last. My youngest one right now is 3yrs old and working a job. Life is pretty chaotic. My oldest one might have an undiagnosed ADHD. Also I feel like I'm finally all the woods with having a baby and I can have my life back, my body back, and job back again. But then I also kind try for a girl because I'm very close to my mom and I really want that relationship too. I don't know if I'm ready right now, but I'm scared that I will regret not trying in the future. I'm also scared that if I do have another child in my throw my life into chaos and there are so many other factors that can go wrong. Like my older ones might get enough attention that they need.